I have had this churning in me for some time now and today is the day Holy Spirit says to release it. Maybe this will help someone out there. This obviously applies to both female and male single people that may someday contemplate marriage. It may be either for the first time or after a divorce or death of a spouse. Now a days there are probably even more scenarios that can be added to this category. For the sake of time, I will not list all of them. If the shoe fits, then wear it as the expression goes.
Let me share this first of all. As I woke up very early this morning, I sought Holy Spirit in scripture. He spoke to me Isaiah 19:2, which means for me to read that verse then read the entire chapter. How interesting, I read it and then in pencil I notated in the margin on 9/26/2020 that Holy Spirit was speaking to me in reference to this scripture of Nashville. At the time I read this there was a white tent revival taking place that very day, imagine that. So, when I turn the page, I see that I underlined on 2/4/2019 @ 2:45AM: "The Lord will strike Egypt with a plague. When he strikes them, he will also heal them. Then they will come back to the Lord. And he will respond to their prayers and heal them."
That sure does sound hopeful to me doesn't it sound that way to you too. So, how do we correlate the 2 subjects and bring this together? If you do not vacillate from one side to the other in what I am about to share with you then He will also heal your land so to speak.
The first in which I will not negotiate is this ... this pertains to a single person. I was always taught the right way to pray for a single person is men pray with men and women pray with women. The laying on of hands when praying for someone protocol is put in place to not open unwelcome doors to the enemy and to you too. There are many single people that may come under the guise let's say for example, an intercessor that prays for people. That is good to be an intercessor for I am one also. You may not have thought about this before but how do you not know the secret desire of that person's heart? They may be praying in a vocal manner wonderful sounding prayers. That is good. Just maybe deep down inside of them they secretly want to be your spouse. Uh oh I just opened a can of worms so to speak. Hey, this is not just geared towards single people it can also happen when a married person of the opposite sex is praying these deep down inside of them prayers. Do not be ignorant. there are Christians out there in marriages that may not seem exciting to them like they used to be. If you spend any time around married couples you can see and catch certain innuendos that show the telltale signs that they just aren't happy with each other anymore. That is sad to see because you would like to see that married couples you surround yourself with are in healthy, loving marriages. At least in the perfect world that is right. Do you observe when the married couple is around you that they smile at each other? Do loving gestures for their spouse or do you find that one of the spouses tends to be more alone without their spouse in activities? Some people in marriages that are failing tend to do things on their own and run here and there away from what is facing them at home. You know, like being active let's say in church related functions or bury themselves in work related tasks.
They will go and be around people that make them feel valuable and celebrated since they are not seeing much of this in their home/marriage. Pray for them but do not allow them to lay hands upon you and pray for you. Your genuine kindness and concern can tend to be misconstrued and they may begin to think that you may just be the one for them. I think that can become dangerous territory. When one is healing themself, they may tend to be a bit more vulnerable than they care to think. Kindness and an overabundance to help just may be leading you down a path that may take you further from your divine destiny or delaying it. I cannot answer these questions for you. You will have to review and ponder those you allow to pray for you that are the opposite sex than you are. Another thought, when you are so close to someone, they then can tend to sway you away from the truth and true people that only have good intentions for your life so they can win at this hand of cards game. Does it make sense? Sometimes we tend to get comfortable with people we have known for many years and think it is ok for them to pray for you as a single person. Do the basic ministry hand rules check. Are you single, are they single and of the opposite sex as you? You just may want to re-consider them laying hand upon you to pray for you. Are they in a not so loving marriage and are the opposite sex as you? You may want to consider them not laying hands upon you to pray for you. What about their current spouse, aren't they a bit rattled that their own spouse is laying hands upon a single person praying for them?
Maybe this is an old-fashioned way of thinking, but I sure do think it is a biblical principal. Praying with another can be an intimate time of prayer and it can also open up a door to the enemy, do you follow me yet? Why place yourself in that situation? Find, strong biblical women to pray with women and the same for men to pray with strong biblical men. That is the first point I will not negotiate on. I am sure there will be others that won't be happy with this standard but that is the way I am. I will not give in to this standard Holy Spirt placed within me, I just won't.
Second point deals in a financial aspect/realm. If I am to marry again, I will not go into the marriage without a thorough review of their financials by an independent source. This is not for my benefit because I am able to live on my own now, but it is for their wellbeing. It needs to be perfectly clear that no one has throughout the years mishandled their finances for them. Meaning skimming off of the books so to speak. You know, taking from them what is not rightfully theirs to take. Basically, it is known as pilfering (Miriam-Webster definition states "to steal stealthily in small amounts and often again and again.") That is only looking out for the benefit of your future spouse. The telltale signs have been there all along but you trust the keeper of your book work so you do not question or second guess them it can be. Are you always struggling to have enough money to fulfill basic needs? You know the money is there but why does it always seem to not be there when it really is needed. I cannot answer these questions, only the person experiencing this can honestly take this before the Lord to seek wisdom on this subject. If you only look at it from this perspective as your gut instinct, then follow that gut instinct.
There were many times throughout the years when my gut was telling me something, but I just didn't want to be bothered with it in that moment when I really should have paid attention to it. Unanswered questions from the past just may have been answered right then and there if I would have only followed my gut instinct and took that car ride to investigate. You know, follow that hunch that was churning inside of you. I would also allow a future spouse to go over the financials in my life too. I do not have an empire built so to speak but what I have I will be transparent with them. That is how I operate. I hope this helped someone out there today or whenever you may be reading this blog entry. It is very rare that I allow others to place their hands upon me to pray for me, especially single males. That is just who I am. When others step outside of their boundaries, I will tend to call them out for it or let others know they did so. Do not be ignorant but use wisdom ok. Please do note that if Holy Spirit causes me to be prayed for by someone else with the laying on of hands, I do obey His leading. Why? Because He knows their hearts intent. I can be somewhere and there is an altar call or a prayer time at the altar. He shows me exactly who to get in line for to pray for me in that very situation. He speaks if you will only listen to what He is saying to you.
Lesson in all of this, follow Holy Spirit nudges for He does work in the realm of gut instincts also. Oh, as I conclude this, I am being reminded of a scripture example. King Xerxes in the book of Esther. He could not sleep one-night and called to review the official daily records/books. They were read to him, the books were reviewed and hidden within those very books was the recognition that was never given to Mordecai's faithful diligence. Haman thought he was preparing a victory celebration for himself but that is not what God had planned now is it? There is wisdom in reviewing your financial book work by a trusted/reliable/unbiased outside source. They can find things hidden that a person may not see. They have trained eyes so to speak to find that either everything is above board financial wise, or it has been tampered with to possibly cover up something much bigger.
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