There is this very young couple where I live that verbally fight a lot. I shared about this before, and the management company apparently cannot or chooses to not do anything about it. They place this burden of reporting such incidents on their residents to do the unpleasant reporting, so they do not have to. Maybe there are legal implications involved in this factor. I know this for sure, the leasing office skirts things at times with the response "Fair Housing" and then they don't have to give you any info of your inquiry and that settles that. Maybe Fair Housing needs to adjust their ways, I am thinking out loud again. Sometimes I feel that residents that have pet animals have more rights than paying customers in apartment complexes that don 't have pets have to put up with. That is a subject for another time.
I was instructed by our leasing office in the event the couple gets loud in fighting to call the non-emergency police phone number NOT 911 if it is when the office is closed and before the courtesy officers are on duty. I am sitting quietly in my living room the other night and they start fighting. I was working on a project which required concentration and this fighting really does disturb me. I think to myself they are too newly married to be fighting like this. I dialed the non-emergency phone number, and I had a conversation with the dispatch person. They are telling me domestic violence/fighting is a 911 call. I responded that the leasing office says not to call 911 but the non-emergency number. I did not want to take away from 911 calls that I think are serious. I was given a bit of knowledge on this subject. I was asked to give a description of this couple and their approximate ages too. I did not understand these questions because I they never asked them before when this type of call was placed prior. This is a problem here, so much so that at 1 point I offered a safe place to the wife if need be. Well, I will be taking back that offer the next time I see her. They had people over a few weeks ago and were loud even at 11:30pm so there is an indicator that maturity needs to come into their lives and if she chooses to stay with a person that treats her like that, it is now her choice. I am released from being the safety net for her.
The dispatcher shares with me as I am being asked questions that maybe they don't need to come out because it was quiet as I was on the phone. They began to share things I never thought of before. See, they would have their outburst and then it would get quiet, and I would just figure things were fine again. In the quiet times it was explained how do you not know if the spouse is unconscious, a knife is being held to them, etc. My mind just never goes in that direction of thinking. There was 1 of these outbursts when the verbal fighting stopped and it sounded like a bowling ball was thrown on the ground above me and then a loudly slammed bedroom door. The dispatcher even shared about if a call was being placed by an abused spouse and then the call gets cut off, how do you not know if the other spouse was there threatening the caller making the call. This conversation opened up my eyes to realms I did not know about or quite frankly want to think about. Why me, I live a quiet life I truly do and now I have to deal with other strangers and their outbursts. So, the dispatcher tells me they route both non-emergency and 911 call and they make the choice. I agreed to place whatever call they felt it needed to be.
This was way too much for me so I went to a friend's apartment so I did not have to hear any of the conversation that would be soon taking place. I wanted to feel safe to be quite honest with you. My friends were able to see 2 police cars showed up. Apparently, some were talking with the wife and others were talking with the husband outside. This was not a visit of knocking on the door by the police to settle down and no one answers the door type of incident. Someone answered the door knock this time. I enjoy peace I truly do. I remember when my marriage was not going great near the end of our marriage. You do not know me like this because Holy Spirit ministered to me and set me free. I was delivered from being an easily provoked angered person that swore using curse words. When He delivered me anger left my life and peace flooded me and the desire to even think of let alone speak curse words was miraculously taken from me. That was a miracle and to this day anger does not rise up inside of me or swearing words either. So, when peace surrounding me gets disturbed or interrupted it affects me. Holy Spirit gives me His peace and strangers cannot take this peace away from me. I kept telling my neighbors to keep checking to see if the talking was over so I could safely go back into my apartment and not have to possibly run into the husband heading back into my apartment.
I went back home, and this incident truly did upset me. First of all, why is this undue burden being placed on me to make a decision to call either non-emergency or 911 phone call when the leasing office should be dealing with this and not the paying customers. They chose to place these tenants in their unit and they moved from another smaller unit within our complex. I have asked the leasing office several times if this was going on in the prior building where they moved from because I find it hard to believe that this just started to occur when they moved into my building. They assure me no one ever reported this before in the other building.
I am lying in bed asking Holy Spirit to calm me down so I could go to sleep. I ask Him to please give me a dream of comfort that night. I wake from the first dream, and it was the opposite of what I requested. I then go back to sleep and say that was not a dream of comfort I still want the comfort dream. I woke that morning with such a beautiful dream of comfort it truly was. I felt the presence of peace & tight protection surrounding me and I thanked Holy Spirit for giving me a lovely dream of comfort. See, in the midst of trauma around you, even if it is not your own trauma Holy Spirit will protect and comfort you. Ask Him, He is faithful, He is just, and He is true. With this recent set of circumstances, I am now released from trying to be the protector, savior of this young couple. I was shown that they each have choices to make in their lives, known as free will. They can either choose to change their ways or not, be it good or bad. They will have to deal with either the blessings or curses that come forth in this relationship. People have reached out to them 1 way or another and now they have to make healthy or unhealthy choices and deal with the consequences from their choices, be it good or bad. I no longer carry this burden that was not mine to begin with. Long ago a wise Christian man gave me great advice, do not let other people dump their garbage on you, don't accept another person garbage. Great advice, isn't it?
Scripture verse to go along with this entry is Philippians4:7 "Then God's peace, which goes beyond anything we can imagine, will guard your thoughts and emotions through Christ Jesus." Translation is from GOD'S WORD to the Nations Bible Society.
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