I heard of this gift idea and I really like it. A booklet with portraits taken of a blended family as a family. Imagine this…a portrait of the one spouse’s children, a portrait of the other spouse’s children; a combined portrait of all the children and the couple together; and then a portrait of the couple together. What a great idea to share with your family and friends the grand union of the two families together. I like that, I like that a lot.
I am sure there is work involved in the blending of the families with all the dynamics of personalities and likes and dislikes. When people are destined by God to be together no demon in hell can stop it. A man or woman can stop it because of a thing known as his or her own free will. If both yield to Holy Spirit and the direction, He leads both in their separate lives and then together as a couple then nothing should stop it. Your really need to know the character/reputation of the two main characters in the story, that is vital. Do not let looks, or feel good feelings turn your heart to another alone. There must be stability and grounding in their own life and the lives of their children too. Is there chaos and craziness in their lives or do they bring balance with stability and calmness? When you take two households that do not have organization, morals, and a love/heart for the Lord then I would say impossible. Even if you take two households that have all the above I just mentioned does not mean the blending will work out. Suppose there was one family that had some of the qualities but organization was lacking in the family. That is where the other spouse may be able to assist in the organization process once blended. Suppose one had a heart for the Lord and the other did not even know the Lord, that is known, as not being equally yoked, not a good thing at all. Suppose one was ministry bound and the other career bound. That could work for they would both be flowing in their gifting and what they are called to do in their lives. Suppose one has a wandering eye and just loves to get the attention of the opposite sex and it is a game with them to see how many will bring attention to them. Warning. Suppose one has claimed and professed your love for the other and then cheated on the faithful one while in the dating process, not good also. That could be an indicator of what lays head of you even after the marriage vows are spoken. Suppose one is younger than the other is and you are drawn to the younger one strongly by their looks. Guess what the looks will eventually fade and you have to love their heart and the tenderness that flows from them to you. Suppose one is greedy and the other is not, that can be tempered if both are willing to work together. If both are lax in disciplining of the children all hell could break loose in that household. If one were very loose with discipline and one very rigid that would make for disaster too. It would then become a struggle with the one set of children not liking that they are being told to do something by a parent that is not their biological parent, could feel a little uncomfortable. What would work best, in my opinion, that there is some sort of agreement that the biological parent would support the other spouse and stand behind them. If you see tendencies of instability at all in the potential spouse I would run from that or go through intense counseling way before the hint of marriage is even considered. Some people are just better, left not in a marriage situation and maybe their destiny is to remain single and embrace the singleness in their life. Some people like to play games and it becomes a challenge just to see if they can capture you and your attention. Once that has been achieved, the thrill of the victory is over and on to the next challenge for them in their life. Here today in your life and gone tomorrow so to speak.
Please do not think I am the doom and gloom person on this subject, I just want you to use discernment when it comes to selecting that spouse to not just be invited into your life but also the lives of your children. The children that you hold near and dear to your heart. Why would you go through all that one goes through to get to know someone and commit your heart and life to them only to find out months into your new marriage and life that they were just a fraud all along and when the real person that they truly are comes out to stay you feel cheated. Divorce is a hard road to walk down. If you have already been down that road
then make sure this is God directing this union so as to not have to walk that painful road again.
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